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No one deserves to be treated this way

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The truth is that all of us will need a little help along the pathway of life. It’s also true that some of us are fortunate to have families who can help. Others aren’t so fortunate so let’s have a little more compassion and give others the benefit of the doubt.


My path of healing

The almost two years since leaving full-time pastoral ministry have been a time of immense healing. It started with grief at what seemed like a failed call. And then mellowed into a sense of loss and periodic anger. And then, almost unlooked for, a calm peace began to settle deeply into me. I began to notice the hard edge that I had allowed to grow up around me as emotional armor became to soften. This truly is God’s gift and I am thankful for it. I feared that my soul had been permanently wounded in my last call, but God proved stronger.

A look of pure spite

It was in this heightened sensitivity that I stopped at the store this evening. I jumped into a line that looked short only to find myself behind a woman in some distress.

English was clearly not her first language, which sounded like it might be Polish or Ukrainian. She was attempting to pay for her grocery order with cash and also with an Illinois WIC card. Like many people she found herself at the check out with price tag higher than her cash and card. Unlike others she clearly was limited to a very precise amount.

She struggled with the cash. She fumbled with the card. I wouldn’t have known it as a WIC card (ignorance of such things is a clear sign of my fortunate personal history) except that the cashier loudly told her “you can’t pay for that with your FOOD STAMPS.”  And as she said it, she turned to me and rolled her eyes with a look of pure spite. I did my best to ignore that eye roll.

Raise your voice

In that moment I decided that should she (that is, the cashier) say anything to me about this other woman I would gently remind her that she might want to cut this other woman some slack. She didn’t so I didn’t.

What’s in a stare? 

I’m no arbiter of social exchanges and there’s a good chance that I read too much into all this.

All I know is that at the cash register I was sure of two things.

The first is that no one–regardless of their language, gender, nationality, or economic status–deserves to be embarrassed, shamed, or worse, abused in any way. 

The second is that those who are in pain (the cashier here) often inflict that pain on others. 

I don’t have any policy proposals, but I do know that we have to work to cultivate communities of compassion and social support networks that can help those who don’t have the same resources some of us have.

The truth is that all of us will need a little help along the pathway of life. It’s also true that some of us are fortunate to have families who can help. Others aren’t so fortunate so let’s have a little more compassion and give others the benefit of the doubt.

Greenway becomes president of SWBTS

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I was excited to learn that Adam Greenway, my college friend, was appointed the ninth president of Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Forth Worth, TX.

Adam and I got to be friends through Samford University’s preaching program known as H-Day. Each week we’d travel to different parts of the state of Alabama to preach, often in rural churches. We also served together as officers of the Samford University Ministerial Alliance.

Adam is a man of integrity. He is the person before you. Ask him what he thinks, he’ll tell you. And ask him what he cares about and he’ll tell you that he cares about those who’ve never encountered Christ savingly.

Congratulations to Adam and to Southwestern!

Traditional sexuality is not a panacea

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Fidelity to the historical teaching on human sexuality is not a silver bullet. We do the church as disservice by suggesting that fidelity here is the linchpin on which church growth depends.

Church growth works until it doesn’t

More than twenty years ago I sat with some British Christians in their living room and talked about church growth. They were leaders in the church I had grown up in–a small, building-less congregation affiliated with the Fellowship of Independent Evangelical Churches.

Since moving to the United States some five years before this conversation I had not only felt called into ministry, but had swallowed the pill of American confidence in the inevitable victory of the church over the pressures of culture. 

As we talked I recall saying “if a church is faithful in its ministry it will grow.” Even as the words left my lips I realized my immense hubris.

This was a church that had faithfully been preaching the gospel weekly for years and had neither a building nor had it grown very far beyond 100 attenders. It was ruled by a session and a part-time pastor was responsible for much of the teaching. In an instance I had called all of that into question. I was ashamed.

The recent Methodist decision

This conversation came to mind when I read of the decision of the United Methodist Church to affirm the Bible’s teaching on human sexuality and to continue to bar (in theory not in practice) non-celibate homosexuals from ordained ministry. Make no mistake, it was a good decision and I’m grateful for it. We must, however, guard our rhetoric around this matter lest it betray us further along the line.

Beyond the usual images of people waving rainbow flags in protest, I’ve also heard delegates from the majority world (and here in the USA) saying things like, “Christianity is growing in Africa. We affirm traditional marriage. That affirmation is part of the reason we’re growing.”

My own experience in Presbyterianism

In my own journey out of the PC(USA) into ECO I heard similar arguments. The PC(USA) is declining, we were told, because it has rejected the Bible’s teaching. Make no mistake, the PC(USA) did reject the Bible’s teaching on a variety of doctrines. I don’t dispute that.

What I dispute is that had they not rejected those doctrines they would be growing rather than shrinking.

The implication is, of course, that being conservative means that your church will grow and flourish. That isn’t necessarily true.

More, pursuing this line of argument will inevitably lead to disappointment should decline follow. It fails to recognize that orthodox Christianity is, once more, a minority report.

Don’t be a Bildad

Evangelicals are in danger of echoing the pseudo-wisdom of Job’s conversation partner Bildad. In concern and response to the terrible suffering that had overtaken Job, Bildad offered a defense of God that centered of His justice and implied that, whatever else, God would (almost automatically) reward those who remained faithful to Him.

Bildad queries, “Does God pervert justice? Or does the Almighty pervert the right?” (Job 9.3).

Bildad draws a straight causal line between what is happening in Job’s life and the divine. The implied alternative is that either God is the cause of sin or Job (or his children) have sinned.

In truth God is not the cause of sin nor had Job sinned. 

The remedy, according Bildad, is to remain faithful. Then God will “rouse himself for you and restore you to your rightful place” (8.6). He continues, “Though your beginning was small, your latter days will be very great” (8.7).

And, later, “God will not reject a blameless person, nor take the hand of evildoers. He will fill your mouth with laughter, and your lips with shouts of joy” (8.21).

There’s so much about this that rings true.

Faithfulness is always the best course of action.

Fidelity is the perpetual right choice.

Doing the right thing doesn’t guarantee a positive outcome.

Doing the right thing has inherent value that is enjoyed apart from any possible additional benefit that might accrue to us by doing it.

Turning from sexual sin and trusting in God’s provision of grace in Christ has its own value. It not only saves us from God’s righteous anger against sin, it also frees us to pursue God himself.

Turning from sexual sin does not, however, mean that life will be a bunch of roses. In the case of the same sex attracted person, for example, the immense challenge and pain of unfulfilled longing must be deemed to be a shadow of the blessing of being united to Christ and to Christ’s body, the church.

Every time someone intimates that making the right choice on sexuality will lead to church growth, they make a profound mistake… about the nature of grace, the state of the world, and the nature of the church. And every time we do it we make it more likely that when real suffering does come for the church, we will not be sufficiently formed to be able to handle it.

In the face of our racism fly to the cross

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In order to be gospel Christians we have to learn to hate any allegiance that attempts to eclipse our Lord or to diminish Christ’s church.

The uncomfortable Jesus

Jesus was one for making remarkably discomforting statements.

Among them is this: “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. . . . Any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple” (Luke 14:26-27; 33).

I can’t say I’ve preached on this verse or its parallels in the other gospels. 

It’s not too hard to guess why. Not only is it a verse to make the congregation awkward; it does the same to the preacher.

It calls for careful exposition in order to avoid the sloppy excesses of radicalism on the one hand and apathy on the other.

What place then does this verse in the life of the believer and in the life of the church? The answer: a central place that must not be overshadowed.

Jesus relativizes our allegiances

There is a significant body of research on how Jesus relatives allegiances that would have been immensely significant in the ancient world.

In other words, Jesus takes the most important relationships in the culture of his time and–without denying or diminishing them–shows that they are of only relative importance in relationship to our identity as members of the mystical body of Christ, the church.

Father and mother? Wonderful. Are you willing to renounce them, to abandon them, if they attempt to stand between you and Christ?

Brothers and sisters? Great. Are you willing to turn your back on them if they attempt to keep you from following Christ?

There’s more… 

Your own life? Are you willing to turn from the life you once knew in order to follow Jesus?

Every baptized Christian has made an oath to renounce the world, the flesh, and the devil.

To be truthful, we tend to echo St. Augustine’s prayer for continence at some future, unspecified date. We’ll start our diet, so to speak, after this last piece of cake.

How do we understand these verses?

Applying these verses to our lives is relatively straightforward (in discussing rather than doing) when we’re dealing with garden variety sins.

The problem is, however, that these particular words of Christ have no disclaimer limiting their scope to only those things ordinarily perceived to be sins by contemporary evangelical believers.

Would that they did; the list is getting shorter everyday.

No, the First Commandment demonstrates God’s insistence that we not displace Him: “you shall have no other gods before me” (Exodus 20:3). The gods that displace God are simply idols. They are, in a matter of speaking, fake gods with now power to redeem or save us from our sins.

It has become trite to insist that the fish struggles to notice that it swims in water rather than something else. Yet, it is true.

Those who are, like me, white Christians have grown up–be it in the United States or Europe–not only as part of the majority culture, but as part of a culture “rigged”–again in a manner of speaking–to serve us at the price of exploiting others.

We are not used to placing race in the arena of things in which God is calling us to confess and repent. Like the fish white Christians fail to easily perceive that the ecosystem in which we thrive is toxic for others.

Can white people be saved?

If Jesus is to be taken seriously, however, we cannot approach him in faith unless and until we are willing and enabled to see that have made our whiteness something of an idol.

Our whiteness stands astride the path of grace that leads us to the cross. We cannot come to Jesus without “hating” it. Unless and until we see our race as something we are willing to lay down at the cross then we (white people) cannot be saved .

This is not the social gospel

I am not willing nor am I able to make policy suggestions to the government on this matter. I will leave that others.

However, as a struggling disciple of Christ and a wretched sinner saved by grace, and as a teacher in Christ’s church, I have no choice but to urge that we examine ourselves in this matter. 

And if the Holy Spirit and the Word of God convinct you, you must fly from sin and fly to the cross.

Five rules for leaders on Twitter

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Your Twitter interactions impact real life. Steward them well.

Senior leadership is a different ball game with different rules.

When I was a younger man and at the beginning of my career I labored under a significant illusion. I thought that occupying a position of senior leadership would allow me to speak my mind. I’d finally be free, unconstrained, to say what I wanted, when I wanted, about whatever bugged me. I could not have been more wrong.  When, at the age of 39, I moved into senior leadership at a large church I quickly (like in the first month) realized that I had been deluding myself. Speaking my mind 24/7 would have been a recipe for disaster alienating those around me, but more importantly alienating those I was seeking to lead and serve. What had failed to realized is that people listen to positional leaders in a different way.  In middle management I had the luxury of things I said being perceived simply as my opinions. As a manager I had position and influence but lacked the ability to fully implement anything I said. As a director people perceived–rightly or wrongly–that what I said was not only my opinion, but the way things were going to be.  An observation could easily be perceived as a policy proposal. And the truth is, especially during stressful times, people hear what they want to hear. As a leader your job is to mitigate the chances of counter-productive messaging.

Five rules for leaders on Twitter.

  1. Use the 1-5-5-1 rule. Write once. Read fives times. Edit five times. Post once. If you’re in too much of a rush to read five times, don’t post it. You’re being lazy. If you can’t get clear with five edits. Forget it. You don’t know what you’re trying to say.
  2. Write for posterity. Sure, Twitter is fleeting. You write a tweet and forget it. Others don’t. The ease of screen shots means that a five second comment can live in infamy for the rest of your career.
  3. Don’t sub-tweet. Sub-tweeting is “a post that refers to a particular user without directly mentioning them.” When you subtweet you run the risk of those you work with assuming (rightly or wrongly) that you’re writing about someone at work (or worse), possibly them. If you’ve got something to say, say it in person.
  4. If you start a spat, count the cost. I’m not saying you shouldn’t get into spats with other people on Twitter. What I am saying is that when you do there is a cost, trade-off. Be aware that in getting 25 people to like your Tweet you might be alienating 250. Is that really a win?
  5. Assume the best. If someone disagrees with you, it’s likely not because they’re a wicked person. Assume the best and ask honest questions. The best minds can pose questions that allow the conversation partner to reveal their true character.

Leaders should care about more than quick point-scoring.

Good leaders are in it for the long-term and not to quickly build a following on the basis of point-scoring from others. Good leaders care about those around them–including those they interact with on Twitter–and desire to positively influence them. It’s always good to remember that our fight or flight response was designed for saber tooth tigers, not conversations on Twitter.