Who is my neighbor?

‘Lord, when did we ever see you hungry and feed you? Or thirsty and give you drink? Or a stranger and show you hospitality? Or naked and give you clothing? When did we ever see you sick or in prison, and visit you?’

And then the King will tell them, ‘I assure you, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!’

On Saturday I experienced a foretaste of the heavenly banquet. After spending the morning doing various things to serve our downtown community, members of our church went out and invited everyone they met to have lunch with us. Many came.

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It was a powerful experience that taught me several lessons about myself, humanity, the gospel, and the church:

  1. Myself: My fear of being patronizing often causes me to hold back. I deeply desire to encounter those with  fewer resources, less cultural power, and (perhaps) greater physical need as equals. This can be difficult to do, and so the fear of perceiving myself as a savior often causes me to miss out on deeper relationships with those who are different than myself.
  2. Humanity: All of us are united both in our dignity and our degradation. The photo above is linked to a collection of portraits of homeless people. As I clicked through the gallery, I was struck by the juxtaposition of dignity and degradation. Stare into the piercing gazes of these people and you will see their dignity. Eyeball don’t age, do they? Yet, those same eyes are set in a deteriorating and unwashed body. It’s no different for me. The form may be different, but I too combine dignity and degradation.
  3. The Gospel: The invitation to the banquet only deeply resonates with those who recognize their need. Those who respond to the message of the gospel are those who see their need. Those who joined us for a simply lunch of sloppy joe’s and potato salad where those who recognized and admitted their need for a free meal.
  4. The Church: The church is a parable of Jesus and so together our story has to mirror Jesus’ story in the gospels. It’s quite difficult for anyone to encounter Jesus in abstraction. Most of us will encounter Jesus through a message-bearer. As the church, we are the bearers of the message that there is free grace offered to us by God through Christ.

Let’s be clear, I’m no Mother Theresa. I am, at best, an apprentice at loving my neighbor. However, God met even me in the simple act of sharing a meal with those in our downtown neighborhood.


How to pick a school for your child

Our son will turn five in April, which means that we have entered into a parallel universe of school tours and informational sessions in preparation for choosing his kindergarten. To be honest, it’s sort of overwhelming.

There is a sort of collective neurosis amongst American parents when it comes to the issue of schooling and academic performance. Generally, I think this preoccupation is misguided and probably counter-productive.

On the other hand, like most parents with graduate degrees we’re also interested in education–it plays(ed) a significant in our own lives–and so we’re interested in learning about our schooling options and doing our due diligence to find a school for our son that will be a good fit.

As we’ve been researching, visiting, and discussing various schools we’ve realized that we’re going to have to make some difficult choices.


As you’re choosing a school for your child in the end there are really only two factors to consider, maybe three.

  • Does the schools’ educational philosophy reflect your own?
  • Is the culture of the school compatible with your own?
  • Does it seem like your child will be a good fit for the philosophy and culture of the school

A secondary, and very real, issue is that of cost:

  • Is it within your means to send your child to that school (if it is private)?

It’s important that your child’s school has an understanding of education that is compatible with your own. In other words: what is education for? How should it be carried out? What is the role of the school in education? What is the role of the parents?

In short, Anna and I want our children to go to a school that inspires them to love learning as much as we do.

We want them to be educated in a place that values creativity and expression more than memorization and performance.

We want our children to love to read as much as we and to be in a community of kids who encourage one another to read.

If an education is to meet its full potential, I think it should take place in a diverse and multi-cultural/multi-ethnic context. We hope that our kids will be educated in a place that is more diverse that our own schools.

We also hope that we’ll be able to find a place where community is more important than social status. We don’t want them to (mis)learn that fashion and affluence are markers of worth. We’ve already fielded the “why don’t you have a minivan or a Suburban?” question (more in terms of having lots of friends on board than as a marker of affluence).

We want them to value the arts as a value means of self-expression and as a carrier (or conduit) of culture) and to grow up believing that a vocation in the arts is just as valid as a vocation in the law or medicine.

Our world is now thoroughly post-Christendom and we think, as a result, that is probably a good thing for our kids to be a religiously pluralistic environment as early as possible. Of course, this requires that we be serious in our faithfully fulfilling our baptismal vows. Nathan and Eliza will need age-appropriate discipleship as well as a catechesis. As a side note: I’m working on an age-appropriate catechism for our family. It will likely blend elements from my favorite confessional documents: the Westminster Standards, the Heidelberg Catechism, and the possibly the Thirty-Nine Articles (Anglican).

As we’re making our decisions we’re also considering Nathan’s intelligence and temperament. We’re considering how he likes to learn and what has, thus far, caused him to enjoy learning and flourish as a little boy. We know, at the very least, that he requires a degree of freedom and room for creativity. He needs boundaries, but they have to be somewhat elastic. We’ve kept that in mind as we’ve looked.

A by-product of our research is an acute awareness of the income and educational inequality that exists in our city, state, and nation. The elementary school we’re zoned for–which we haven’t ruled out, by the way–is considered an under-performing school. 70% of the students are on some form of government aid (mostly reduced or free lunches). It’s predominantly non-white. Of those students not on aid the vast majority are performing at or above national standards (which I’m not entirely sure measure the right things).

So how do we choose between the private Christian school, the local magnet school, a local charter school, or the school we’re zoned for? I think, in the end, it’s a matter of evaluating values and philosophy–and of prayer.